Hi! I'm Erin McDaniel. I am a six-time IVF "survivor" and now a proud mama to two beautiful boys.
During my fertility journey, I was frustrated, angry, confused, and lonely. It seemed there was no one to help guide me and I kept hitting unexpected delays and pitfalls. After the second unsuccessful round of IVF I started to factor myself into the treatment plan - how could I take charge and control more of the experience?
Once I gathered a broader support team and started to care for my whole self things got easier. I felt empowered, had greater perspective, and was more calm. Now, I'm using this experience to help other women have a more positive family building experience.
(For more details about my story, click here.)
Magda from Poland, undergoing ivf
Talking to Erin really helped me deal with everything I'm going through. Her direct, no nonsense and super practical approach really got through to me! I highly recommend!
a client from austin, undergoing ivf
I've tried and done so many things, but [Erin] was the missing piece for me.
debbie from chicago, currently pregnant
Erin was such a great support to me during this fertility roller coaster. Anyone going through fertility treatment would benefit from her guidance and resourcefulness. I got so much out of our sessions - she helped me shift my perspective, stay positive and celebrate the small stuff.
lisa from Chicago, delivered twins
I think the coaching was absolutely a KEY first step in the huge transformation that has occurred in my life (and our lives) in the last 7-9 months. It was the first step I took to take care of myself emotionally and spiritually. I don't have a baby, but I also no longer feel like I HAVE to have a baby to be happy. I have more gratitude and wholeness, and I have more confidence my ability to care for myself. I have also learned that doing what feels good and right for me is ENOUGH. And that life is not a to-do list! I can't say enough how much that end-of-year email in combination with our last phone call hit me like a bolt of lightening. That idea that life is not a to-do list and that even going "all in" with TCM was channeling my masculine energy and trying to earn a baby - these two ideas were like keys that opened a door to a whole new life.
Infertility, whatever its form and result, is a transformative process. We think the end goal is a baby, but really it is so much more than that. As much as possible, it is helpful to know this and be open to it. And I think that coaching is very helpful - even essential - to realizing these larger transformations. Erin will be a shoulder to cry on and the understanding heart you need; and she will also help you see and maintain a larger vision for your life that is so vital to the process.
A client from san francisco, delivered baby boy
The fertility world seems to be missing a key component - a coach and confidant - someone who’s sole focus is to care for you and help you care for yourself. Erin provided an empathetic ear and practical advice to help me gain greater control over my journey. She felt like my own personal ‘IVF partner-in-crime.’ With her help, I took on another round of IVF feeling positive, calm, and resilient.
a client from chicago, currently pregnant
Going into my first IVF cycle was a scary, confusing and lonely time. Then I meet Erin and she helped me every step of the way. She prepared me physically, mentally and helped me find strength I never knew I had. Erin provides you with a wealth of information, is a shoulder to cry on and is always cheering you on. I couldn’t imagine doing this without her.
a client from chicago, in a waiting period
Erin was referred to me at my breaking point in my infertility struggles. I had just found out my first IVF cycle did not work and was devastated. I had already been through 3 failed IUI’s and months of holistic healing...all to which I was hoping this IVF cycle would finally help complete the family we have been longing for. Not only is Erin extremely personable and professional, but she is also very accommodating; not only with schedules but also during our sessions. She allows you to set the sessions as to what you need most that week. She is great at giving you tools to use to help you through your journey to stay positive and give you strength to keep going. She also always makes sure you know you have a support system in her at anytime.
Steve and Elizabeth from Minnesota, delivered baby girl
You have made a really scary and hard experience so much better for us. You truly have a gift for helping others and are so good with words.
a client from chicago, currently pregnant
After 6 months of trying to conceive with the help of my doctor, I was feeling confused and frustrated by the process. A friend of mine suggested that I look for a service or coach that could help. That is when I found Erin at My Fertility Coach. Erin helped me gain not only the ability to advocate for myself in this process but also the courage to move onto IVF. I was scared and very averse to the idea of IVF but through many tears and Erin’s supportive and empathetic coaching I was able to do a cycle of IVF. (Which actually ended up being a breeze.) And now I am 22 weeks pregnant with a baby girl (my first child)! I can honestly say that I may not have had the courage or the confidence to pull this off without Erin’s help and support. I’m gonna be a mom!! Thank you Erin!
How it works
I believe women who feel empowered to take control of their whole health - mental, spiritual, and physical - while building their families have a more positive experience.
I provide a personal touch that gets at the intangibles and helps bring ease to the process. Sessions are sold in packages of 5 or 10 50-minute consultations. Each session is customized to your needs and current situation. To give you a general idea of the program path we could cover, I've listed some session topics below:
- About you: Your family story and coaching goals
- Creating your self care plan: Taking care of your whole being during this journey
- The how tos of IVF: The ins/outs of what to expect and how to prepare
- Designing the "perfect" cycle: How to craft your life to support this experience
- Riding the roller coaster: Your IVF treatment has started. How do you survive - maybe even enjoy - the ride?
- On ice: Making the most of the waiting times
- Next steps: You know the results, what now?
- Additional areas of focus: Identifying your values, Goal setting, Grieving, Decision making, Other ways to build a family
We'll meet regularly in person (in Chicagoland only), via phone, or video. I'm available for quick questions via email, phone, or text in between our appointments. I'm a friendly encourager, a gentle accountability partner, and I'll laugh at all of your jokes.
Together, we'll identify your fears, trigger situations, and the information you're missing. We'll make a plan to help you feel empowered, encouraged, and equipped for the journey.
Coaching is an individualized service
When we work together, we'll identify the areas most important to you and develop a custom plan to help you feel more calm and in control of your fertility journey. Your plan could include things such as:
Assistance in creating a plan for self-care and support before, during, and after fertility treatment.
A first-hand account of what to expect along the journey. We'll think through questions to ask and pitfalls to watch out for. I'll help interpret monitoring numbers and can be available for check ins before and after appointments.
Together, we'll identify your values, what's most important to you at key points in the process, and break down major decisions. You'll feel confident and calm that you're shaping the family you want.
Whether its a new, modified, or consistent exercise program, we'll think through how to recognize the strength in your body and be kind to it during the fertility process.
An easy template to record your family building experience. Use it to stay motivated, keep your care team up to date, or as a memento of your journey. Or, something to burn when this is all over.
Customized guided visualizations, meditations, or prayers to help your head space stay clear at key points in the process. These could include beginning stimulation, during injections, before monitoring appointments, at retrieval, each day of lab growth, at transfer, or during the wait for a pregnancy test.
Meal and Menu planning
We'll break down a nutritionist's recommendations for diet changes so you feel excited and energized to fuel your body for fertility.
We'll work together to identify any number of ways to fill you with energy and lightness, help you stay in the present, and ultimately contribute to a more positive, healing, family building experience.
Fertility treatment can be a lonely and confusing road. I can help; please schedule your complimentary Fertility Plan Review & Strategy Session or send me an email to get started.
If you are a member of the fertility community, I'd love to meet you. Please drop me a line to introduce yourself.